First of all, I want to thank you for your patience with me on this latest post. I had to put it off due to some family/health related things that took precedence. But I made the time to do it while my husband was out golfing and the kids were conveniently preoccupied with their dreams (aka nap time). This post got a ton of buzz and response from you guys, and I seriously cannot thank you guys enough for your contributions to this week's Ask the Moms topic: Sex After Baby.
Last week, I asked you guys if you had any experience, thoughts, or advice about the rather daunting thought of having sex after giving birth to a baby. I mean... you expelled a human out of your lady bits... the last thing on all of our minds is having sex, right? WRONG. Honestly, I was rather (pleasantly) surprised to see all of the responses about how some of you "couldn't wait" to do the deed after baby, because I felt the same way. By week 2-3 postpartum with each of my kids, my husband and I were READY, but that doesn't mean my body was. Obviously, each woman is different- different bodies, different birth stories, different recovery times, etc. and that is why I think this is such a great topic because there is no "one size fits all" answer or piece of advice to go with it. So without further ado, let's read what the REAL moms have to say about sex AFTER baby.
"Give yourself grace and TIME. Lots of time. Don't do it until you want to/are ready."
"Just trying not to think about it as I'm about to experience it after a complicated c-section."
"Lots of LUBE! I cannot stress enough because it's so dry down there! If you had any sort of tearing or stitches then go very slowly. It took me 12 weeks the first time and 8ish this time. Go slow the first few times until you finally feel comfortable. It's ok to stop 5 minutes into it."
"I never waited the full 6 weeks."
"Communicate with your spouse!!! Don't feel guilty that you're not yourself at first."
"Waited 3-4 weeks for me for my last two because I didn't tear at all."
"Don't do it before you're cleared by your doctor, ESPECIALLY if you had to get stitches."
"Be relaxed, and also realistic. I waited to be cleared, personally, but felt ready at 4-5 weeks postpartum! I told my husband that we are going to make a date of it and I bought a cute outfit!"
"For me it was so different after each baby. With my c sections I was "ready" sooner, but just make sure you are ready and don't worry if you don't feel like doing "it." Your body just went through a huge trauma. There are other ways to have "sexy time."
"LOTS OF LUBE."
"Well, I think the timing truly depends on mom's health. After my first child, I had to undergo repairs a couple of times. FINALLY, after 6 long months post baby, I switched doctors and was repaired correctly. Another week of healing, and I was able to be with my VERY patient husband. With our second daughter, I had an emergency cesarean. The recovery time was estimated 6 weeks. That was correct for me. Continue praying together and growing together. The right time will happen. If you don't feel as comfortable in your skin, get a cute silk top. Allow your husband to love on you."
Thanks again to all of the wonderful women who contributed to this week's topic on the Ask the Mom Series! Do you have a topic in mind that you'd like to bring to the group to discuss? Please feel free to comment below or send me a message/comment on a post and let me know so I can add it to the list of topics. Stay tuned for next week's topic of discussion, and as always, THANK YOU for being here!
Blessings and Health,